Responsibility

Responsibility is a important value that one person has. Responsibility is someone that is mature enough for respond for his errors or his behavior. Some person who have responsibility know that when we loose the sense of responsibilities we deal with consequences.
Many men and women today want be free, dont care about have responsibilities or dont care about commitment because commintment is necessary responsibility for mantein one relationship and think about the partner.
This responsibility is about our choices, acts, behavior that we have and the others, special the family.
Young people want live the life like the last day and I ask: what is a men without dreams, plans, or ambition for the future? well in my opinion is just one empty person because dreams, plans, and ambition is what make our world move, make evolution... Of course we dont know the future but our present give us clues about what is comming next. Our choices in present have consequences in the future. People today want what is easy to get, and many guys use their bodies to get this that is sex without commitment. They know that they can use a "friend" any time and send him go away any time and next choose other "friend" and etc. Close of 80% of gay guys do this. If 1 in 12 are gay people, see this 80% show that exist a small number who believe in relationships and special in love. Exist many gay people that fight for equal in marriage like the heterosexual couples and are people that believe in relationships. Almost gay guys dont care about relationships what they want is a large number of friends as possible and explore them. I believe that for example in California gay marriage was ban because some gay guys or girls vote ban the marriage so the fault is not all of church some gay people can have a little fault in that... we dont know... but see many guys who doesnt care about... can make us think that they vote for ban marriage.
For who believe in relationships and want share his life with other person know that all time is important for find who we love and dont loose time with illutions, empty people, bad friends, and look for find the partner because they know that soon or later we will receive the consequences of our choices and is not when we have sixty that we will make a relationship or make a family because for do this exist times that we must respect.
Exist people who doesnt care about family or other people. They are selfish enough for forget that they dont are alone, we have people that belong to us and care about us so our choices can be part of our family or friends. Like one song say "its now or never" means that we have one opportunity: born, live and death... Most of things that we do in our lifes is only one opportunity. Have responsibility is important because show us and others that we are mature enough for make a relationship, care about others and be a true man.

Strong

Strong is something that is not easy destroy, damage, modify, weak and is something that has one force that is better than the other forces. Strong is one quality of love that is very necessary for build one relationship. Love is strong because is unconditional and stay we our lifes until we die. Today people want what is weak, fake, casual, easy to get and dont care about be a human because a true human has one thing that is: affection. Like I say before affection is one sign of be human. The diference of be a human or animal is that for humans is very easy get affection and build connections. You can say: but casual dates is not show affection? No. No because in casual dates what only happen is sex, and behind these people do sex when they have casual dates they in reality dont show affection because one caracterists of have affection is mantein or miss or want stay with that person and not make "mecanic contact" and leave. Affection is you like one thing and you feels that you need that thing close of you. So, casual dates people meet one person stay with her some time and leave.
For example in other post about the homosexuality and bible, homosexuality is not clear but what is clear is fornication. Is very simple understand why in bible God condenn fornication because people when do sex without feelings, affection, true desire, honor, they only have a simple contact that is use the body and leave.
This is easy understand and is not necessary read the bible for take conclution about affection and human contact. Other religions say the same, doesnt matter religion.
Strong is very necessary because in relationships when exist dificult times like for example, distance, death... if love is strong enough, then will survive and is one connection that is pure and human. Only what is strong has force, what is weak loose. Is not the "boy next door", "easy going", "casual" that has force enough for find love, because what has force enough is strong and is unconditional.

Homosexuality and Bible

Homosexuality and Bible. Is subjective theme. Is homosexuality wrong in Bible? Or is other thing?
Homosexuality in Bible is not very clear and understand this is subjective but one thing that people cant say is that God hate homosexuals because in bible says that God love anyone, so He cant hate but of course He make justice.
The Bible in reality is a book that is about the human condition, life and death. Is homosexuality wrong? Of course no. This is simple to see because every person is diferent and every person has a unique nature and you can see that other animals do the same "behaviour" so they cant change because was mother Nature who give the "carts". In Bible says that God create women and men for procreation. This correct of course, but that is for some people because not everyone is heterosexual so people sometimes forget that Bible says history of some people in diferent time and diferent "scenario". In Bible exist three homosexual couples.
Ruth and Naomi and David and jonathan for example. People sometimes dont want see the truth and invent things that arent there. See the context of these couples of course can be subjective for some people but for who read this, take the true idea that they were more than friends not "only friends". For example Sodom and Gomorrah. If one person read with attention will see that situation was not about homosexuality because when the men of that city want make relations with the "angels" Lot give their daughters for the men so they leave the "angels" in peace, after that the city was destroyed. Why was the city destroyed? Because people who lived in that city were mean, dont have values, dont have respect for others, so if the motive was homosexuality of course some people maybe survive... like children. The true motive is very clear: fornication. The men of that city saw beautiful "men" arrive and they quick saw that was good satisfy their instints.
In Bible says that one thing that make God angry is fornication because our "temple" must be clean and a man must have values, ambition for fight for his dreams, honor for be a man, someone true that dont lie. Some people confuse homosexuality and fornication. In Bible when talk about homosexuality sometimes together is fornication but this fornication is not be homosexual but yes, have many relations at the same time. So no one can exactley say that Bible say about homosexuality is wrong or is a sin. Bible says too that God dont really agree with polygamy and have mutiple partners. Understand better this, what "God" says is that life is precious and we must have moral, values, treat other well, dont be materislists and more. People must remember that the Bible is a book of human condition, special dificult times, weakness, strong, problems that any human has.

Attraction and feelings

Attraction and feelings are two diferent things. Attraction is you feel that you physical feels attracted for someone and your "nature" is what command your desire. Feelings is you like or hate or love someone and is what your "inside" tells you.
Some people put this things together, attraction and feelings. Today attraction has more value than feelings because most of people, for them, physical apparence is very important and they forget the balance between attraction and feelings. Is important exist a balance because exist many people that have great body but their "inside" is empty and only have their inside "images" that their instints want. Exist too many people that have a beautiful "inside" but their apparence is not exactley accept for the rules of be model or something like this.
For guys who want find a guy that will make them happy is important give value to this two things. Is important because many guys who only give the importance for attraction is simple: they only want sex and is important too, because many guys who only give the importance for feelings forget their true "nature" (be homosexual or heterosexual), is our nature that will show us what we feel attracted or in other words: our genes.
Average is good word, because first is good meet a guy and see if his apparence is enough attracted for us and see too if their personality or "inside" or heart is enough good for us.
Balance is the key.

The kiss

If have a partner you like spend time with him, because you like him and you need him. The time that you and him are together is very important because is a time that you share with him, affection, conversation, feelings, touch, and kisses.
Affection is a human sign. Kiss your partner make you feel good and him and when you kiss him you feel that you make a connection with him.
Spend hours and hours kiss the partner is good for relationships. We can kiss the partner when we see movies together, walk on the beach, do sports, conversation. Hugs is very important too, like kisses so all affection is necessary for mantein a connection with the partner.
The moment of the kiss is when we feel that our partner belongs to us and is like a part of us that we want touch. When two humans kiss they stay connected and enjoy the touch.
Gay man can kiss his partner in public places like everyone (some places where dont exist ignorance) and is good a gay man show to other people that love his partner but sometimes is too much because exist that people that are always kiss in public that make people shy, is like that expression "get a room". Of course if we have a partner we can kiss him in public but with preference places like beach, large public places... not for example in the library where we are for study or read because we distract people.
Be a private person is very important and is good too for mantein intimacy. All secrets are between the couple. We must have proud of kiss the partner in public because is one person that belong to us but exist people that do this to much, for example, you are in seat public read and sundley arrive a couple that start kiss so with noises, you feel distract so you move for leave them alone with their intimacy.
Any way the kiss is good, is one sign that we love someone and we need this "someone" but of course we must have respect and share our intimacy with the right person.

Sex and affection

Sex and affection can be subjective for some people. When every people do sex they show affection? or is a "mecanic behavior"? For monogamous gay men that have a partner affection is very important in a relationship because is one sign of show to their partner that they love.
Affection is you feel attracted for your partner and you feel that you need him and feel that you want your partner close of you. Affection is like kiss your partner or send sign that you like him.
For guys that are "easy" and only prefer the easy things like do sex without commitment, use and next leave etc... these guys when they do sex they think that they show affection but of course is not truth. They of course can "like" this person but when they do sex with that person what they only want is get most pleasure possible and satisfy their "instints". They have what is called "mecanic behavior" and this is about being sexaholic that they use people like object that play and after they stay bored they look for other "object".
For monogamous and gay men, no, affection in sex is very important like kiss many times the partner, say beautiful or hot (In the good sense without been dirty) words, touch all body and stay close as possible. In "easy" guys no, they do sex and of course they kiss their partner but is in a "cold" way.

Lust

Being superficial person, today is easy... You can make your "style" and dont worry about the future and live the life to the fullest. In the days of now humanity have many crisis, between them are lust. Lust is about the desire of have many sexual activity and dont make rules... Today more than half of humanity have the "sin" of lust. People want what is easy without commitement, rules, exclusivity, and loose the sense what is marriage.
What is the cause of this? Is very simple... people are selfish, dont know what they want from future, for them future doesnt matter.
But why lust is considerate for example for religions a sin? Is simple, because sex is more complex what people think. Sex is for reproduction, love, connection, intimany and identity. For example for people who are swigger, they do sex with everyone, so they loose intimacy and dont have respect for what their sex "means". Is confuse, and many people think that for example, people who are monogamous make drama... but is not because when people who are swigger make sex with many people even if this people dont have, feelings like afection, they create a "hole" in the person that they make sex. What is this hole? This hole is the intimacy, because intimacy is very important for build a relationship. If this person has many "friends", and if in a day she finds one special person is very complicate because her intimacy is lost.
Humans can be more than "racional animals" and for monogamous men intimacy is very important because when they find the right person they became "one" and their connection is strong because dont exist "holes" between them.
Many guys go to the gym for have the "perfect body" but in fact what they think is make many friends as possible and sleep with them one day, week after week, night yes, night no, etc... One caracterists of lust is people who only think is have a beautiful body, make many sex as possible and dont care about values. Exist many guys that you saw and you think: these guy is gorgeous. Exist many guys gorgeous but what they want is sex, and use people like object that sleep with partner "A", next partner "C", next partner "B, again partner "A" etc and what is incredible is that some of them dont remember of names with people that they sleep... Strange irony.
Being sexaholic in some societies is a taboo because most people today think that is very normal use one person, and next other.

Unfair

If you miss one thing you want find her and stay closer... You miss because you feels good when you have this thing. For who wants make a pure alliance with someone look for find the perfect partner or perfect one or even soulmate.
Today people that have more oportunity for find someone loose their time in other things like "hookups". In ancient times for example didnt exist internet, tv, or open society (some countries) for try find the perfect one, of course, I am talking about homosexual men. Love is very rare in our planet because people are weak, selfish, cheat, lie, dont have values and are stupid. Find someone serious and real is dificult and if in your planes you want someone for share your life you must look for this guy because you feels that in somewhere is a part of your heart, your inside says to you that you miss "him".
Well, one of majority problems of society (world in general) is that most of people are conformist and "lazy". You sure that for example saw in internet profiles that says "easy going" , "boy next door", "hookups", "hot here", "distance 3o miles of..." etc. This is typical from people who are lazy, conformist that always prefers the easy things, because love is something that is very complex and is not a hot body or someone nice that make love exist. People are very materialist, most guys that go to gym, only are there because they want feels attractive for other guys and as well have more sex as possible. For monogamous and homosexual men this guys is just waste of time.
Exist people who have values and "miss" the other part of heart and look everyday for find the one, exist people that have lucky, other that dont... is hard.
Is unfair for example someone look for the "guy" entire life and in a day this one guy appears and you discovery that this "guy" is "easy going" that always prefer the easy things and that in the time that you look for him, he has casual relationships with their friends etc... People adult dont change because our personality is finished when we have 21, and like many say:" Is late, door is close"... If you look for someone many time and you now meet one guy that has a beautiful body but are easy going, well, you must say him:"go for hell bitch!", because for have the work, is sad someone waste hours and hours of our life for the end find one used guy that is very ordinary and lazy. Dont waste or accept guys that always prefer the easy things because this guys only want is f"ck someone and etc... Love is hard because is rare and one clue of true love is find someone that is too, looking for you and waiting you appears in his life. When for example you saw in the news people that are disapear you saw that the family goes to the news for tell people that miss and need find this person because is simple, they love this person, so they need her. Is just a example. If everyone were easy probably today you never read this.