Best Gay sites

For a gay man, find a partner sometimes is hard and good and serious sites that are about long term relationships is rare. Exist thousands of gay sites on Internet but the majority is only for sex and casual dating.
Internet is modern, faster, global and use Internet can help you find your partner. Your partner can be in every place of the world and when you use Internet you increase your chances of find him. On Internet you can discovery how is that person that you talk (you can easily investigate that person for example if that person lie) and learn things about people or their true nature. What im saying is that in a normal contact for example in job, friends (sometimes fake) these people can lie to you and use a "mask" so they arent honest and is hard know what that person really is. I dont understand why so many people say that Internet is danger or is a waste of time. First the Internet is not danger what really is danger is people and second if you know investigate and protect you, Internet can help you know what people you deal.
Dont exist many gay sites for long term relationships (of course im talking about serious sites without nudity) and if you think create a profile in one site with nudity of course would be very hard find someone that really wants a long term relationship because that sites that offers you nudity the people who create profiles there are interest in casual dating.
Exist some sites that can help you find your partner and I will talk about sites that dont charge many money for you send a message or wink and even see that profile that saw your profile. I put five sites that are in balance with people. Number five is Match that is famous but will cost you some money but you can create your profile for free. Number 4 is Soulmate.com that send you matches about your options. Number 3 is gay.matchmaker the search is easy, you can see what person saw your profile. Number 2 is gaysinglesonline.com that is one of best gay dating sites and easy to use. Finally number 1 is connexion.org that is free and easy to use and of course you can find that "boy next door" if you dont search well and dont forget put "single" and "interested in relationship". These are some of gay sites that can help you find your desire in relationships.

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Power

Power. Is what every man wants. Masculinity is a symbol of power, strong. Masculinity has many symbols... Our star the Sun is too a symbol of masculinity... in other side the Moon is femenine.
You can see in a man many aspects that he show... have a great car with potence, go to gym for take good his body, sports and more. Exist too men that think that they are masculine but in reality they are stupid because been masculine is not drive fast, drink a lots of beers... Exist many people that think that gay people in aspect of men are femenine or want change sex. Of course is not truth, exist many gay men that are masculine. People are diferent and what defines our gender is not only our physic but is too our mind. For have balance people must accept that all people are diferent and is normal have with us masculinity and femenine together.. So a little boy can play with dolls and a little girl can play with cars. Is normal and if a boy plays with dolls doesnt means that he´s gay or if a girl play with cars doesnt means that she´s lesbian. Power of masculinity what really is? Is have a great body? a great house and many money? a great car? lots of friends? use people like dolls? Power can be for many people these things that I said here, but a true power that make us men and honor our masculinity is find the happiness of our soul and feel that our "temple" have everything that we need like our soulmate, love, heath, peace, balance. For example when happen a global disaster like earthquake, we see that some things in our life have more value than others... and superficial things doesnt matter. In our life we control this "power" that is catch the most important things and share our time like the last day. For example in XXI century exist people that cant have this "power" like choose his/her husband/wife... or people that waste time with "dolls" and stupid parties. Our power is choose our destiny and have everything that our "temple" and "soul" needs.

Responsibility

Responsibility is a important value that one person has. Responsibility is someone that is mature enough for respond for his errors or his behavior. Some person who have responsibility know that when we loose the sense of responsibilities we deal with consequences.
Many men and women today want be free, dont care about have responsibilities or dont care about commitment because commintment is necessary responsibility for mantein one relationship and think about the partner.
This responsibility is about our choices, acts, behavior that we have and the others, special the family.
Young people want live the life like the last day and I ask: what is a men without dreams, plans, or ambition for the future? well in my opinion is just one empty person because dreams, plans, and ambition is what make our world move, make evolution... Of course we dont know the future but our present give us clues about what is comming next. Our choices in present have consequences in the future. People today want what is easy to get, and many guys use their bodies to get this that is sex without commitment. They know that they can use a "friend" any time and send him go away any time and next choose other "friend" and etc. Close of 80% of gay guys do this. If 1 in 12 are gay people, see this 80% show that exist a small number who believe in relationships and special in love. Exist many gay people that fight for equal in marriage like the heterosexual couples and are people that believe in relationships. Almost gay guys dont care about relationships what they want is a large number of friends as possible and explore them. I believe that for example in California gay marriage was ban because some gay guys or girls vote ban the marriage so the fault is not all of church some gay people can have a little fault in that... we dont know... but see many guys who doesnt care about... can make us think that they vote for ban marriage.
For who believe in relationships and want share his life with other person know that all time is important for find who we love and dont loose time with illutions, empty people, bad friends, and look for find the partner because they know that soon or later we will receive the consequences of our choices and is not when we have sixty that we will make a relationship or make a family because for do this exist times that we must respect.
Exist people who doesnt care about family or other people. They are selfish enough for forget that they dont are alone, we have people that belong to us and care about us so our choices can be part of our family or friends. Like one song say "its now or never" means that we have one opportunity: born, live and death... Most of things that we do in our lifes is only one opportunity. Have responsibility is important because show us and others that we are mature enough for make a relationship, care about others and be a true man.

Strong

Strong is something that is not easy destroy, damage, modify, weak and is something that has one force that is better than the other forces. Strong is one quality of love that is very necessary for build one relationship. Love is strong because is unconditional and stay we our lifes until we die. Today people want what is weak, fake, casual, easy to get and dont care about be a human because a true human has one thing that is: affection. Like I say before affection is one sign of be human. The diference of be a human or animal is that for humans is very easy get affection and build connections. You can say: but casual dates is not show affection? No. No because in casual dates what only happen is sex, and behind these people do sex when they have casual dates they in reality dont show affection because one caracterists of have affection is mantein or miss or want stay with that person and not make "mecanic contact" and leave. Affection is you like one thing and you feels that you need that thing close of you. So, casual dates people meet one person stay with her some time and leave.
For example in other post about the homosexuality and bible, homosexuality is not clear but what is clear is fornication. Is very simple understand why in bible God condenn fornication because people when do sex without feelings, affection, true desire, honor, they only have a simple contact that is use the body and leave.
This is easy understand and is not necessary read the bible for take conclution about affection and human contact. Other religions say the same, doesnt matter religion.
Strong is very necessary because in relationships when exist dificult times like for example, distance, death... if love is strong enough, then will survive and is one connection that is pure and human. Only what is strong has force, what is weak loose. Is not the "boy next door", "easy going", "casual" that has force enough for find love, because what has force enough is strong and is unconditional.

Homosexuality and Bible

Homosexuality and Bible. Is subjective theme. Is homosexuality wrong in Bible? Or is other thing?
Homosexuality in Bible is not very clear and understand this is subjective but one thing that people cant say is that God hate homosexuals because in bible says that God love anyone, so He cant hate but of course He make justice.
The Bible in reality is a book that is about the human condition, life and death. Is homosexuality wrong? Of course no. This is simple to see because every person is diferent and every person has a unique nature and you can see that other animals do the same "behaviour" so they cant change because was mother Nature who give the "carts". In Bible says that God create women and men for procreation. This correct of course, but that is for some people because not everyone is heterosexual so people sometimes forget that Bible says history of some people in diferent time and diferent "scenario". In Bible exist three homosexual couples.
Ruth and Naomi and David and jonathan for example. People sometimes dont want see the truth and invent things that arent there. See the context of these couples of course can be subjective for some people but for who read this, take the true idea that they were more than friends not "only friends". For example Sodom and Gomorrah. If one person read with attention will see that situation was not about homosexuality because when the men of that city want make relations with the "angels" Lot give their daughters for the men so they leave the "angels" in peace, after that the city was destroyed. Why was the city destroyed? Because people who lived in that city were mean, dont have values, dont have respect for others, so if the motive was homosexuality of course some people maybe survive... like children. The true motive is very clear: fornication. The men of that city saw beautiful "men" arrive and they quick saw that was good satisfy their instints.
In Bible says that one thing that make God angry is fornication because our "temple" must be clean and a man must have values, ambition for fight for his dreams, honor for be a man, someone true that dont lie. Some people confuse homosexuality and fornication. In Bible when talk about homosexuality sometimes together is fornication but this fornication is not be homosexual but yes, have many relations at the same time. So no one can exactley say that Bible say about homosexuality is wrong or is a sin. Bible says too that God dont really agree with polygamy and have mutiple partners. Understand better this, what "God" says is that life is precious and we must have moral, values, treat other well, dont be materislists and more. People must remember that the Bible is a book of human condition, special dificult times, weakness, strong, problems that any human has.

Attraction and feelings

Attraction and feelings are two diferent things. Attraction is you feel that you physical feels attracted for someone and your "nature" is what command your desire. Feelings is you like or hate or love someone and is what your "inside" tells you.
Some people put this things together, attraction and feelings. Today attraction has more value than feelings because most of people, for them, physical apparence is very important and they forget the balance between attraction and feelings. Is important exist a balance because exist many people that have great body but their "inside" is empty and only have their inside "images" that their instints want. Exist too many people that have a beautiful "inside" but their apparence is not exactley accept for the rules of be model or something like this.
For guys who want find a guy that will make them happy is important give value to this two things. Is important because many guys who only give the importance for attraction is simple: they only want sex and is important too, because many guys who only give the importance for feelings forget their true "nature" (be homosexual or heterosexual), is our nature that will show us what we feel attracted or in other words: our genes.
Average is good word, because first is good meet a guy and see if his apparence is enough attracted for us and see too if their personality or "inside" or heart is enough good for us.
Balance is the key.

The kiss

If have a partner you like spend time with him, because you like him and you need him. The time that you and him are together is very important because is a time that you share with him, affection, conversation, feelings, touch, and kisses.
Affection is a human sign. Kiss your partner make you feel good and him and when you kiss him you feel that you make a connection with him.
Spend hours and hours kiss the partner is good for relationships. We can kiss the partner when we see movies together, walk on the beach, do sports, conversation. Hugs is very important too, like kisses so all affection is necessary for mantein a connection with the partner.
The moment of the kiss is when we feel that our partner belongs to us and is like a part of us that we want touch. When two humans kiss they stay connected and enjoy the touch.
Gay man can kiss his partner in public places like everyone (some places where dont exist ignorance) and is good a gay man show to other people that love his partner but sometimes is too much because exist that people that are always kiss in public that make people shy, is like that expression "get a room". Of course if we have a partner we can kiss him in public but with preference places like beach, large public places... not for example in the library where we are for study or read because we distract people.
Be a private person is very important and is good too for mantein intimacy. All secrets are between the couple. We must have proud of kiss the partner in public because is one person that belong to us but exist people that do this to much, for example, you are in seat public read and sundley arrive a couple that start kiss so with noises, you feel distract so you move for leave them alone with their intimacy.
Any way the kiss is good, is one sign that we love someone and we need this "someone" but of course we must have respect and share our intimacy with the right person.

Sex and affection

Sex and affection can be subjective for some people. When every people do sex they show affection? or is a "mecanic behavior"? For monogamous gay men that have a partner affection is very important in a relationship because is one sign of show to their partner that they love.
Affection is you feel attracted for your partner and you feel that you need him and feel that you want your partner close of you. Affection is like kiss your partner or send sign that you like him.
For guys that are "easy" and only prefer the easy things like do sex without commitment, use and next leave etc... these guys when they do sex they think that they show affection but of course is not truth. They of course can "like" this person but when they do sex with that person what they only want is get most pleasure possible and satisfy their "instints". They have what is called "mecanic behavior" and this is about being sexaholic that they use people like object that play and after they stay bored they look for other "object".
For monogamous and gay men, no, affection in sex is very important like kiss many times the partner, say beautiful or hot (In the good sense without been dirty) words, touch all body and stay close as possible. In "easy" guys no, they do sex and of course they kiss their partner but is in a "cold" way.

Lust

Being superficial person, today is easy... You can make your "style" and dont worry about the future and live the life to the fullest. In the days of now humanity have many crisis, between them are lust. Lust is about the desire of have many sexual activity and dont make rules... Today more than half of humanity have the "sin" of lust. People want what is easy without commitement, rules, exclusivity, and loose the sense what is marriage.
What is the cause of this? Is very simple... people are selfish, dont know what they want from future, for them future doesnt matter.
But why lust is considerate for example for religions a sin? Is simple, because sex is more complex what people think. Sex is for reproduction, love, connection, intimany and identity. For example for people who are swigger, they do sex with everyone, so they loose intimacy and dont have respect for what their sex "means". Is confuse, and many people think that for example, people who are monogamous make drama... but is not because when people who are swigger make sex with many people even if this people dont have, feelings like afection, they create a "hole" in the person that they make sex. What is this hole? This hole is the intimacy, because intimacy is very important for build a relationship. If this person has many "friends", and if in a day she finds one special person is very complicate because her intimacy is lost.
Humans can be more than "racional animals" and for monogamous men intimacy is very important because when they find the right person they became "one" and their connection is strong because dont exist "holes" between them.
Many guys go to the gym for have the "perfect body" but in fact what they think is make many friends as possible and sleep with them one day, week after week, night yes, night no, etc... One caracterists of lust is people who only think is have a beautiful body, make many sex as possible and dont care about values. Exist many guys that you saw and you think: these guy is gorgeous. Exist many guys gorgeous but what they want is sex, and use people like object that sleep with partner "A", next partner "C", next partner "B, again partner "A" etc and what is incredible is that some of them dont remember of names with people that they sleep... Strange irony.
Being sexaholic in some societies is a taboo because most people today think that is very normal use one person, and next other.

Unfair

If you miss one thing you want find her and stay closer... You miss because you feels good when you have this thing. For who wants make a pure alliance with someone look for find the perfect partner or perfect one or even soulmate.
Today people that have more oportunity for find someone loose their time in other things like "hookups". In ancient times for example didnt exist internet, tv, or open society (some countries) for try find the perfect one, of course, I am talking about homosexual men. Love is very rare in our planet because people are weak, selfish, cheat, lie, dont have values and are stupid. Find someone serious and real is dificult and if in your planes you want someone for share your life you must look for this guy because you feels that in somewhere is a part of your heart, your inside says to you that you miss "him".
Well, one of majority problems of society (world in general) is that most of people are conformist and "lazy". You sure that for example saw in internet profiles that says "easy going" , "boy next door", "hookups", "hot here", "distance 3o miles of..." etc. This is typical from people who are lazy, conformist that always prefers the easy things, because love is something that is very complex and is not a hot body or someone nice that make love exist. People are very materialist, most guys that go to gym, only are there because they want feels attractive for other guys and as well have more sex as possible. For monogamous and homosexual men this guys is just waste of time.
Exist people who have values and "miss" the other part of heart and look everyday for find the one, exist people that have lucky, other that dont... is hard.
Is unfair for example someone look for the "guy" entire life and in a day this one guy appears and you discovery that this "guy" is "easy going" that always prefer the easy things and that in the time that you look for him, he has casual relationships with their friends etc... People adult dont change because our personality is finished when we have 21, and like many say:" Is late, door is close"... If you look for someone many time and you now meet one guy that has a beautiful body but are easy going, well, you must say him:"go for hell bitch!", because for have the work, is sad someone waste hours and hours of our life for the end find one used guy that is very ordinary and lazy. Dont waste or accept guys that always prefer the easy things because this guys only want is f"ck someone and etc... Love is hard because is rare and one clue of true love is find someone that is too, looking for you and waiting you appears in his life. When for example you saw in the news people that are disapear you saw that the family goes to the news for tell people that miss and need find this person because is simple, they love this person, so they need her. Is just a example. If everyone were easy probably today you never read this.

Adult

Everything became mature, we born, we live and we die. Is Nature law no one can change that.
Every person is diferent because everyone has a special nature or personality.
Adult... for people, is some person that has some age or a mature personality. Today one person is considerate mature or adult with 21 but when this person has 18, is too considerate adult. Adult age is subjective because is diferent for culture of any nation.
Our personality, said some scientists begin when we are inside of our mother because is "the build of our nature". In our teenage our body change, we feel many emotions and is this time that our personality became more stronger. School or family are very important for help build our personality with some values.
Is when we have 21 that our body is "complete" and our adult personality is too complete and for example what our parents of family or friends teach us, now is values that our personality has. Exist people that have a good family that teach always the good values, respect others, fight for their objectives and more but some this people falls is opposite side, some of them, because of their friends. You can see one type of person if you look at her friends, because friends show others what type of people we are, what we identify.
Sex became more important we our teenage because is when is change and for example we can see in this what our nature tells us, (heterosexuality or homosexuality).
21 is important because is one year of our life that we choose away. 21 is important because is when for example our height stop etc... In this age we have complete our adult personality and we have the values that will make a orientation for our life. For monogamous homosexual men this is a important age because is when for example we want make alliance with someone and make a family. Exist two diferent ways: one is find someone for share our life other is the "fun" someone. For who choose the "fun" way maybe dont exist retourn and if someday you change your mind is late because life is short and for example for make a healthy family is need time for find the right partner, time for live together and time for make plans for have a children for example. Make a family is very complex and serious of course for who choose the "fun" way you can make a family, called "friendly family".
Of course life is short and we must pay attention what we choose and we want because can became one way without retourn. If everyone were "easy" or conformist maybe Christopher Columbus didnt find America or for example we dont have Internet because "is need so many work to do.." or the moon never saw the men etc...
Sometimes the easy way became more dificult and confused and we became lost. People who are adult choose their way and deal with consequences. Is the law of life we choose and receive the good or bad that our life has to offers you.

Sacrifice

All good things arent easy, for example, find a diemant, gold, build machines, science, perfection, and more... Arent easy because for have this things is need very work, very work to do these things.
Is like the true love, because find the true love is very hard and is need many work for find him. True love can be subjective or dont? What people want more? People exactley want (for who believes in love and wants build one relationship) is a partner that will enjoy the union and someone that is our side in long our life for suport us and share our life. So, I can say that people want the same thing, find someone for share their lifes and of course can be subjective but if we see, is almost the same thing. Humans are very complex and sometimes we see for example in the news terrible things that we ask: "how can people do these things?".
We choose soon our away, and we deal with our consequences of that choise, and for who wants build a family, have someone for share our lifes we must be objective, know what we want for us.
Search for a partner is not easy, of course if you are "boy next door" you can enjoy the speed dates, play with your dick on webcam and etc... this is easy... for find our partner we must look in every directions and be open for the world. This sacrifice is preserve our temple or sex, look for find these guy, have values, in other words, following the perfection.
In ancient times exist men that were very empty and ignorant, but in present that we live in one world that is connected, is more modern and know what is good or is bad, we see many young people do the same things that our grandfathers or grandmothers did. One word: Dah! Is possible that after we know the past, do the same mistakes? Truth is that humans arent perfect. Exist for example sites that detroy values, and teach treat people like objects and shit. But of course is these stupid people that falls so easy, they dont understand that what these people want is used you and get your money from you, nothing more. Exist good sites too, for serious people and if you want make a profile in the net you must look for sites that is special for make relationships.
If we are single men or woman we need preserve our temple because our sex or connection is very important and rare thing that we must treat like gold.
Of course many say that the love come to our door in maybe a day, but if you dont move, stay in same place you loose the oportunity of meet someone special. Maybe is someone looking for you... who knows, and, if these person finds you and see that you are "lazy" because you are conformist that always prefer the easy things, these person leave in exactley moment.
Sacrifice is hard and sometimes painful but if in the end you find what do you looking for you will see that was necessary and important.

Conservative or liberal

Conservative or liberal? Which is better... Our world are in constant change, sometimes values change too but other is important mantein. Conservative person wants preserve ancient or present values and possible never change her mind. A liberal person wants be a "open" person that always accept the change.
In aspect of relationships, today exist so many people who have liberal idea. Is good be liberal? have "open" relationships, "free sex", "dont make drama"?. For monogamous men, of course no, because sometimes so many freedom or dont establish rules can have consequences. For example, one decade of XX century that has this theme (liberal), the decade of 60's that everyone knows because was a decade of change and that be liberal was new. Of course I am talking about the hippies, that what they want were be free of politics, free of rule, free sex, or just be free. One clear consequece was that they, with ideas of be liberal they try drugs, free sex, fight with rules of society etc. They quicley saw that what they did was too much, and one consequece was that some of them die, suicide. Some of them die because they loose the sense of rules (of course many try drugs), the sense of values...of course is not all people who I am talking about but a huge a number. This just a example.
My point is that, exist things that, of course need change but before we want change we need see if the new ideal is more perfect than the other. Today many people or couples have open relationships, they have a partner but they sometimes choose other partner for have sex, of "vitual sex" in the webcam for example. Of course is not correct because if one person has a partner for be with, why they choose have other partners? I can say, fornication, sexaholic, etc... But one thing is clear, one person that do that of course dont really love her partner. Be conservative is good because some of conservative ideas have values and teach us became better people, liberal is too good but before we change our mind we must se if the new ideal is better than the before. One balance that is great, be moderate. For example some countries accept gay marriage, so, they are conservative but accept the diference, they became moderate conservative.

Fornication

Fornication, a ancient term that was used many centuries ago. Fornication is a term which typically refers to voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to each other. Fornication today is more present that in ancient world. Today almost people loose the sense of marriage and purity.
Purity for example in ancient cultures was very important and a marriage only happen if for example woman or man are pure, or before marriage they never make sex.
Fornication is for people that what they see, are sex and only sex.
In ancients times fornication was considerate a crime and was shameful for the family of this person. This, in my opinion, is nothing about religion but yes, with values and honor. People must have values and honor and in ancient cultures (of course that times were not perfect) honor was very important as well purity.
In our world exist millions of people and exist a little number that look for find the perfect partner or love. Fornication is in every part, because is easy find sex and people empty. The origin of the word derives from Latin. The word fornix means "an archway" or "vault" and it became a common euphemism for a brothel as prostitutes could be solicited in the vaults beneath Rome. More directly, fornicatio means "done in the archway"; thus it originally refered to prostitution. The first recorded use of the noun in its modern meaning was in 1303 AD.
People choose what they want, but in our days see that we have more ability for find people and create health relationship and people waste their time with "slaves" and "objects". Well we choose.